Archive for the 'Acceptance' Category
 

Standards vs. Expectations

Sep. 16th 2012
Knowing yourself and what you want is great. But unless the object of your interest is a mind-reader, you may have to communicate your expectations, or risk losing out on a great opportunity.

How Other People Can Ruin Your Relationship

Sep. 9th 2012
Your well-meaning, opinionated friends and family members can systematically tear your relationship apart … if you let them.

Kudos to Kudrow

Sep. 3rd 2012
In a recent graduation speech, Lisa Kudrow told young people not to take risks. And, believe it or not, I agree with her.

Memories of Relationships Past

Jul. 16th 2012
When you remember past relationships, do you think of your former partners fondly? Or are you still bitter, angry or hurt?

The Blaming of You

Jun. 17th 2012
Do you and your partner play the blame game? Psychologists say it’s only natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s productive.

Turf Wars

Jun. 10th 2012
When two people share a home, they both undoubtedly want to feel comfortable there. But there will probably be times when they have opposing desires about what should go on in that space.

How Bad Was Bobby Brown?

May. 27th 2012
How much of what you read or hear about other people’s romantic partnerships do you actually believe?

What is Important to Me?

May. 21st 2012
Sometimes the egocentric desire to keep score can ruin the enjoyment we get from simply giving to others.

When Partners Do Things We Do Not Like

May. 14th 2012
What does your partner do that drives you crazy? Are you capable of simply accepting that quality or behavior as part of who your mate is, and not considering it a ploy designed to infuriate you?

What is Relationship Consciousness?

May. 7th 2012
How well do you and your partner make decisions together and resolve potential conflicts? Are you able to do so in a way that usually leaves both parties feeling heard, and to some degree, satisfied?

Appearance Matters

Apr. 30th 2012
After recently having the woman I've been looking at for eight years blow me away with her beauty, I can now see how appearance matters ... even when we are with partners we truly believe love us no matter how shabby we look.

Monogamy: How Important is It to You?

Apr. 16th 2012
Considering the emotional, financial and even bodily damage that infidelity can bring about, it’s worth discussing your thoughts on the issue with your mate.

Whitney Houston: A Life Well Lived

Apr. 4th 2012
While many continue to criticize the songstress’s lifestyle and even sanity in her later years, I applaud her authenticity and courage to live life on her own terms – no matter what anyone else thought or said about her.

In Defense of a Former Stripper

Apr. 2nd 2012
Do you feel guilty about decisions you made in the past? If so, consider this: “right” and “wrong” are subjective, and guilt is a waste of time.

Selfish vs. Selfless: What’s the Difference?

Mar. 12th 2012
Neither selfishness nor selflessness is good or bad. In fact, the two concepts are inextricably linked, not opposites, as their definitions seemingly imply.

Who Says I Have to be Happy?

Mar. 4th 2012
Happiness is a measure by which I evaluate what (and who) is working well in my life. What you choose to value in romantic relationships is up to you.

Should I Help Raise a Child I Didn’t Want?

Feb. 25th 2012
Whether to have children is a very big (and very personal) decision. And it can really get complicated when factoring a partner’s desires into the equation.

Married and ‘Single’ Parenting

Feb. 19th 2012
To have children, or not to have children: This question has changed the dynamic of many marriages – for better, or for worse.

It’s Not Your Relationship; It’s Not Your Business – Or Is It?

Feb. 6th 2012
Each romantic partnership and its "rules" are defined by the people in it; therefore, no two relationships look the same. So, why do we feel the need to define our relationships for others?

It’s Controversial

Jan. 30th 2012
Here's what to do about those home-wrecking "other women."

Why I Suspect My Partner is Cheating on Me

Jan. 23rd 2012
A key to a healthy, productive relationship is not learning how to spot the signs of an affair; it is to stop worrying about it.

Are My Saggy Pants Really Hurting You?

Jan. 16th 2012
Do you use condemnation as a way to manipulate others into doing and behaving how you think they should?

The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make

Jan. 2nd 2012
This week, I am proud to present my first video blog, “The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make.” The text is also available for those who prefer reading the blog to watching me run my mouth. Friends and family have already been kind enough to give me feedback and pointers on both my presentation and the content, and I am anxious to hear yours as well. So, what do you believe to be the most important decision you will ever make?

A Perspective Against “Manning Up”

Dec. 27th 2011
Only you can determine what you value in life and/or how you behave in order to be "a man” or "a woman.”

Monogamy = Love?

Dec. 19th 2011
My second guest blogger, Jill Nelson discusses why women so often conflate a monogamous relationship with love.

Where to Find a Good Man

Dec. 12th 2011
Here's a little frank love about how and where a good woman can find a good man.

The Other Side of a Table and a Marriage

Nov. 21st 2011
When we stop blaming our former partners, and understanding the roles that we played in failed relationships, we may find peace, personal growth and a chance at new love.

What’s the Difference Between Settling and Compromising?

Nov. 6th 2011
Settling and compromising are both necessary components of the decision-making process, and neither is “good” or “bad.”

The Beauty of Hank Williams’ “Obama” Comment

Oct. 17th 2011
If we censor and censure people who say things we don’t want to hear, we may struggle to understand them.

You Don’t Have to “Change the World”

Oct. 12th 2011
At the end of the day, there is no such thing as a selfless act.

Adult-Child Anger When Parents Divorce

Sep. 24th 2011
Divorce is hard on children, but when those children are grown, it can be even harder.

Abuse or a Learning Experience: You Pick

Sep. 17th 2011
If you can learn and grow from an experience, it isn’t abuse. It is a learning opportunity.

What is Marriage?

Sep. 9th 2011
Just because fewer people are walking down the aisle these days doesn’t mean there are fewer marriages; or does it?

Having Less Pain in Your Relationship

Aug. 13th 2011
Has your mate ever done something that hurt you? A new study suggests that it probably wasn’t as painful as you remember.

Get More Done at Home Without Hurting Yourself or Your Relationship

Jul. 29th 2011
Sometimes, it takes a village to run a household.

Relationship Wisdom from Aretha Franklin

Jul. 14th 2011
The Queen of Soul says, “Don’t be afraid to grow out of love.”

Set Some Rules for Disagreements in Your Relationship

Jul. 4th 2011
Keep minor disagreements from becoming full-blown arguments by creating some rules for engagement in your relationship.

A Message to the Father’s Day Council

Jun. 27th 2011
When you’re a dad who also has an old man, Father’s Day isn’t all about you. That’s why we need more than one day.

Introducing Yasmin: The Story of a Warm Smile and Acknowledgement

Jun. 20th 2011
Want to really mesmerize a man? Smile at him.

Arnold and Maria: Does Their Split Really Concern You?

May. 19th 2011
Expecting perfection from political couples might be unfair – to them and to you.

Men and Women: We’re in it Together

May. 15th 2011
There are no "women's issues" or "men's issues," because what affects you affects the ones you love.

I’ve Got Lots of Women

May. 9th 2011
It’s a time to thank all of the women in your life.

How to Abuse Yourself and Blame Others

Apr. 24th 2011
“Abuse” is term that is thrown around pretty liberally in our society. But do you abuse the word “abuse”?

How to Be a “Powerful Person in a Partnership”

Apr. 12th 2011
Who is powerful in your relationship?

Step-Parenting: Do You REALLY Love Them Like Your Own?

Apr. 8th 2011
Being a step-parent is rewarding … and potentially complicated.

Everyone Poots: Acceptance in Relationships

Apr. 2nd 2011
Are you accepting of your loved ones – even the unpleasant parts?