After Earth: A Great Father’s Day Movie
Will Smith has out-done himself with this Father-son flick.
Archive for the 'Blog' Category
Alison Martin’s Candid Communication
Having a relationship with a person can be a warm and uplifting lifetime experience. But not all relationships go smoothly ...
Standards vs. Expectations
Knowing yourself and what you want is great. But unless the object of your interest is a mind-reader, you may have to communicate your expectations, or risk losing out on a great opportunity.
How Other People Can Ruin Your Relationship
Your well-meaning, opinionated friends and family members can systematically tear your relationship apart … if you let them.
Kudos to Kudrow
In a recent graduation speech, Lisa Kudrow told young people not to take risks. And, believe it or not, I agree with her.
What’s Your Unprotected Sex Protocol?
When are you comfortable with unprotected sex?
Unprotected Sex Feels Better
An honest, effective conversation about safe sex requires that we admit a truth that often gets left out of the discussion: Unprotected sex feels better.
Chris Bosh and Allison Mathis: Having It In Writing Might Have Helped
Avoid the drama and expense of legal battles by planning for your split before it happens.
Would You “Let” Your Three-Year-Old Go to Europe with Your Ex?
Should one parent be allowed to take a child out of the country without the permission of the co-parent?
Why Fear a Pretty Face?
In life and love, fear will keep you from getting what you want.
Gay Marriage: Look it Up
In the midst of public controversy about the definition of marriage, I decided to consult the ultimate source – the dictionary.
Memories of Relationships Past
When you remember past relationships, do you think of your former partners fondly? Or are you still bitter, angry or hurt?
From Marriage to Co-Parenting: Redefining a Relationship
If your ex is still a good parent to your children, consider yourself blessed.
What Gets You in the Mood?
Why do human beings have sex?
Take Her to a “Chick-Flick”
Romantic comedies may not be your style, guys. But if your lady likes “chick-flicks,” I suggest sharing her popcorn.
The Blaming of You
Do you and your partner play the blame game? Psychologists say it’s only natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s productive.
Turf Wars
When two people share a home, they both undoubtedly want to feel comfortable there. But there will probably be times when they have opposing desires about what should go on in that space.
Is Marriage for Women?
I have always thought of marriage as a win/win, something that benefits both the man and the woman involved. But to hear some women talk, you’d think it’s all for the women.
How Bad Was Bobby Brown?
How much of what you read or hear about other people’s romantic partnerships do you actually believe?
What is Important to Me?
Sometimes the egocentric desire to keep score can ruin the enjoyment we get from simply giving to others.
When Partners Do Things We Do Not Like
What does your partner do that drives you crazy? Are you capable of simply accepting that quality or behavior as part of who your mate is, and not considering it a ploy designed to infuriate you?
What is Relationship Consciousness?
How well do you and your partner make decisions together and resolve potential conflicts? Are you able to do so in a way that usually leaves both parties feeling heard, and to some degree, satisfied?
Appearance Matters
After recently having the woman I've been looking at for eight years blow me away with her beauty, I can now see how appearance matters ... even when we are with partners we truly believe love us no matter how shabby we look.
Are Relationships Sacred?
Are there aspects of your relationship that are too “sacred” to even discuss? If so, you might be headed for turbulence.
Monogamy: How Important is It to You?
Considering the emotional, financial and even bodily damage that infidelity can bring about, it’s worth discussing your thoughts on the issue with your mate.
Whitney Houston: A Life Well Lived
While many continue to criticize the songstress’s lifestyle and even sanity in her later years, I applaud her authenticity and courage to live life on her own terms – no matter what anyone else thought or said about her.
In Defense of a Former Stripper
Do you feel guilty about decisions you made in the past? If so, consider this: “right” and “wrong” are subjective, and guilt is a waste of time.
Not-So-Random Acts of Love
If you want to be a more romantic and thoughtful partner and haven’t been inclined to make your overture regular, I’ve got a few ideas.
Seal & Heidi: It’s A Wrap
Heidi Klum and Seal’s split is a demonstration that looks can be deceiving.
Selfish vs. Selfless: What’s the Difference?
Neither selfishness nor selflessness is good or bad. In fact, the two concepts are inextricably linked, not opposites, as their definitions seemingly imply.
Who Says I Have to be Happy?
Happiness is a measure by which I evaluate what (and who) is working well in my life. What you choose to value in romantic relationships is up to you.
Should I Help Raise a Child I Didn’t Want?
Whether to have children is a very big (and very personal) decision. And it can really get complicated when factoring a partner’s desires into the equation.
Married and ‘Single’ Parenting
To have children, or not to have children: This question has changed the dynamic of many marriages – for better, or for worse.
The Purpose of Sex
Is sex a sacred sharing that should only happen between two people who love each other? Is it simply for pleasure, or solely for reproduction? Or is it about intimacy?
It’s Not Your Relationship; It’s Not Your Business – Or Is It?
Each romantic partnership and its "rules" are defined by the people in it; therefore, no two relationships look the same. So, why do we feel the need to define our relationships for others?
It’s Controversial
Here's what to do about those home-wrecking "other women."
Why I Suspect My Partner is Cheating on Me
A key to a healthy, productive relationship is not learning how to spot the signs of an affair; it is to stop worrying about it.
Are My Saggy Pants Really Hurting You?
Do you use condemnation as a way to manipulate others into doing and behaving how you think they should?
What Do We Find Attractive in the Opposite Sex
What qualities do you find most attractive in a potential partner? Here is what the research said.
The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make
This week, I am proud to present my first video blog, “The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make.” The text is also available for those who prefer reading the blog to watching me run my mouth. Friends and family have already been kind enough to give me feedback and pointers on both my presentation and the content, and I am anxious to hear yours as well.
So, what do you believe to be the most important decision you will ever make?
A Perspective Against “Manning Up”
Only you can determine what you value in life and/or how you behave in order to be "a man” or "a woman.”
Monogamy = Love?
My second guest blogger, Jill Nelson discusses why women so often conflate a monogamous relationship with love.
Where to Find a Good Man
Here's a little frank love about how and where a good woman can find a good man.
How to Avoid “Relationship Debt”
Debt is an unpleasant reality that most Americans have learned to live with – both in their personal finances and in their politics. But remember when you’re holiday shopping this year that it can also be hard on a marriage.
Providing Value in Relationships
One way to gauge whether you provide value in any relationship is to ask for support in accomplishing or acquiring something that is important to you. While asking for assistance is not always easy, nothing of significance can be accomplished alone – and that is why I am asking for your help.
The Other Side of a Table and a Marriage
When we stop blaming our former partners, and understanding the roles that we played in failed relationships, we may find peace, personal growth and a chance at new love.
Celebrity Marriages: Why Do We Care?
Many of us romanticize romance … and look to famous people for inspiration – both on-screen and off-screen. But consider how well celebrity romances typically work out.
What’s the Difference Between Settling and Compromising?
Settling and compromising are both necessary components of the decision-making process, and neither is “good” or “bad.”
How to Create Remarkable Moments for Your Children
Give your children a gift they'll treasure for a lifetime – stories from your life with them.
The Beauty of Hank Williams’ “Obama” Comment
If we censor and censure people who say things we don’t want to hear, we may struggle to understand them.
