Archive for the 'Byron Katie' Category
 

How Other People Can Ruin Your Relationship

Sep. 9th 2012
Your well-meaning, opinionated friends and family members can systematically tear your relationship apart … if you let them.

Kudos to Kudrow

Sep. 3rd 2012
In a recent graduation speech, Lisa Kudrow told young people not to take risks. And, believe it or not, I agree with her.

What’s Your Unprotected Sex Protocol?

Aug. 27th 2012
When are you comfortable with unprotected sex?

Chris Bosh and Allison Mathis: Having It In Writing Might Have Helped

Aug. 13th 2012
Avoid the drama and expense of legal battles by planning for your split before it happens.

Why Fear a Pretty Face?

Jul. 30th 2012
In life and love, fear will keep you from getting what you want.

Memories of Relationships Past

Jul. 16th 2012
When you remember past relationships, do you think of your former partners fondly? Or are you still bitter, angry or hurt?

What Gets You in the Mood?

Jul. 2nd 2012
Why do human beings have sex?

Take Her to a “Chick-Flick”

Jun. 24th 2012
Romantic comedies may not be your style, guys. But if your lady likes “chick-flicks,” I suggest sharing her popcorn.

The Blaming of You

Jun. 17th 2012
Do you and your partner play the blame game? Psychologists say it’s only natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s productive.

Turf Wars

Jun. 10th 2012
When two people share a home, they both undoubtedly want to feel comfortable there. But there will probably be times when they have opposing desires about what should go on in that space.

How Bad Was Bobby Brown?

May. 27th 2012
How much of what you read or hear about other people’s romantic partnerships do you actually believe?

What is Important to Me?

May. 21st 2012
Sometimes the egocentric desire to keep score can ruin the enjoyment we get from simply giving to others.

When Partners Do Things We Do Not Like

May. 14th 2012
What does your partner do that drives you crazy? Are you capable of simply accepting that quality or behavior as part of who your mate is, and not considering it a ploy designed to infuriate you?

What is Relationship Consciousness?

May. 7th 2012
How well do you and your partner make decisions together and resolve potential conflicts? Are you able to do so in a way that usually leaves both parties feeling heard, and to some degree, satisfied?

Appearance Matters

Apr. 30th 2012
After recently having the woman I've been looking at for eight years blow me away with her beauty, I can now see how appearance matters ... even when we are with partners we truly believe love us no matter how shabby we look.

Are Relationships Sacred?

Apr. 23rd 2012
Are there aspects of your relationship that are too “sacred” to even discuss? If so, you might be headed for turbulence.

Monogamy: How Important is It to You?

Apr. 16th 2012
Considering the emotional, financial and even bodily damage that infidelity can bring about, it’s worth discussing your thoughts on the issue with your mate.

In Defense of a Former Stripper

Apr. 2nd 2012
Do you feel guilty about decisions you made in the past? If so, consider this: “right” and “wrong” are subjective, and guilt is a waste of time.

Not-So-Random Acts of Love

Mar. 26th 2012
If you want to be a more romantic and thoughtful partner and haven’t been inclined to make your overture regular, I’ve got a few ideas.

Seal & Heidi: It’s A Wrap

Mar. 18th 2012
Heidi Klum and Seal’s split is a demonstration that looks can be deceiving.

Selfish vs. Selfless: What’s the Difference?

Mar. 12th 2012
Neither selfishness nor selflessness is good or bad. In fact, the two concepts are inextricably linked, not opposites, as their definitions seemingly imply.

Who Says I Have to be Happy?

Mar. 4th 2012
Happiness is a measure by which I evaluate what (and who) is working well in my life. What you choose to value in romantic relationships is up to you.

Should I Help Raise a Child I Didn’t Want?

Feb. 25th 2012
Whether to have children is a very big (and very personal) decision. And it can really get complicated when factoring a partner’s desires into the equation.

Married and ‘Single’ Parenting

Feb. 19th 2012
To have children, or not to have children: This question has changed the dynamic of many marriages – for better, or for worse.

The Purpose of Sex

Feb. 13th 2012
Is sex a sacred sharing that should only happen between two people who love each other? Is it simply for pleasure, or solely for reproduction? Or is it about intimacy?

It’s Not Your Relationship; It’s Not Your Business – Or Is It?

Feb. 6th 2012
Each romantic partnership and its "rules" are defined by the people in it; therefore, no two relationships look the same. So, why do we feel the need to define our relationships for others?

It’s Controversial

Jan. 30th 2012
Here's what to do about those home-wrecking "other women."

Why I Suspect My Partner is Cheating on Me

Jan. 23rd 2012
A key to a healthy, productive relationship is not learning how to spot the signs of an affair; it is to stop worrying about it.

Are My Saggy Pants Really Hurting You?

Jan. 16th 2012
Do you use condemnation as a way to manipulate others into doing and behaving how you think they should?

What Do We Find Attractive in the Opposite Sex

Jan. 9th 2012
What qualities do you find most attractive in a potential partner? Here is what the research said.

The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make

Jan. 2nd 2012
This week, I am proud to present my first video blog, “The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make.” The text is also available for those who prefer reading the blog to watching me run my mouth. Friends and family have already been kind enough to give me feedback and pointers on both my presentation and the content, and I am anxious to hear yours as well. So, what do you believe to be the most important decision you will ever make?

A Perspective Against “Manning Up”

Dec. 27th 2011
Only you can determine what you value in life and/or how you behave in order to be "a man” or "a woman.”

Monogamy = Love?

Dec. 19th 2011
My second guest blogger, Jill Nelson discusses why women so often conflate a monogamous relationship with love.

Where to Find a Good Man

Dec. 12th 2011
Here's a little frank love about how and where a good woman can find a good man.

How to Avoid “Relationship Debt”

Dec. 4th 2011
Debt is an unpleasant reality that most Americans have learned to live with – both in their personal finances and in their politics. But remember when you’re holiday shopping this year that it can also be hard on a marriage.

The Other Side of a Table and a Marriage

Nov. 21st 2011
When we stop blaming our former partners, and understanding the roles that we played in failed relationships, we may find peace, personal growth and a chance at new love.

What’s the Difference Between Settling and Compromising?

Nov. 6th 2011
Settling and compromising are both necessary components of the decision-making process, and neither is “good” or “bad.”

How to Create Remarkable Moments for Your Children

Oct. 24th 2011
Give your children a gift they'll treasure for a lifetime – stories from your life with them.

You Don’t Have to “Change the World”

Oct. 12th 2011
At the end of the day, there is no such thing as a selfless act.

Rape or Regretted Sex?

Oct. 5th 2011
There is a difference between regretted sex and rape.

Adult-Child Anger When Parents Divorce

Sep. 24th 2011
Divorce is hard on children, but when those children are grown, it can be even harder.

Abuse or a Learning Experience: You Pick

Sep. 17th 2011
If you can learn and grow from an experience, it isn’t abuse. It is a learning opportunity.

What is Marriage?

Sep. 9th 2011
Just because fewer people are walking down the aisle these days doesn’t mean there are fewer marriages; or does it?

Verbal Abuse: The Whole Truth

Aug. 31st 2011
When people "put you down," they might actually be doing you a favor.

Married Couples are NOT Necessarily Happier

Aug. 22nd 2011
Research shows unhappily-married people to be far less content with life than their single counterparts.

Parenting: A Selfish Act

Aug. 17th 2011
Is having children a sacrifice, or is it just as selfish as everything else we do?

Having Less Pain in Your Relationship

Aug. 13th 2011
Has your mate ever done something that hurt you? A new study suggests that it probably wasn’t as painful as you remember.

To Snoop or Not to Snoop on Your Partner

Aug. 4th 2011
Are you thinking about (or already) checking your partner's e-mails, text messages or call logs? And is doing so getting you anywhere?

Get More Done at Home Without Hurting Yourself or Your Relationship

Jul. 29th 2011
Sometimes, it takes a village to run a household.

A Tip About Relationship Dynamics

Jul. 21st 2011
"Social appreciation” is not a “tip.”