In life and love, fear will keep you from getting what you want.

Do you and your partner play the blame game? Psychologists say it’s only natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s productive.

What does your partner do that drives you crazy? Are you capable of simply accepting that quality or behavior as part of who your mate is, and not considering it a ploy designed to infuriate you?

Are there aspects of your relationship that are too “sacred” to even discuss? If so, you might be headed for turbulence.

Considering the emotional, financial and even bodily damage that infidelity can bring about, it’s worth discussing your thoughts on the issue with your mate.

Do you feel guilty about decisions you made in the past? If so, consider this: “right” and “wrong” are subjective, and guilt is a waste of time.

Neither selfishness nor selflessness is good or bad. In fact, the two concepts are inextricably linked, not opposites, as their definitions seemingly imply.

Happiness is a measure by which I evaluate what (and who) is working well in my life. What you choose to value in romantic relationships is up to you.

Whether to have children is a very big (and very personal) decision. And it can really get complicated when factoring a partner’s desires into the equation.

To have children, or not to have children: This question has changed the dynamic of many marriages – for better, or for worse.

Is sex a sacred sharing that should only happen between two people who love each other? Is it simply for pleasure, or solely for reproduction? Or is it about intimacy?

Here’s what to do about those home-wrecking “other women.”

A key to a healthy, productive relationship is not learning how to spot the signs of an affair; it is to stop worrying about it.

Do you use condemnation as a way to manipulate others into doing and behaving how you think they should?

This week, I am proud to present my first video blog, “The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make.” The text is also available for those who prefer reading the blog to watching me run my mouth. Friends and family have already been kind enough to give me feedback and pointers on both my presentation and the content, and I am anxious to hear yours as well.

So, what do you believe to be the most important decision you will ever make?

Only you can determine what you value in life and/or how you behave in order to be “a man” or “a woman.”

My second guest blogger, Jill Nelson discusses why women so often conflate a monogamous relationship with love.

When we stop blaming our former partners, and understanding the roles that we played in failed relationships, we may find peace, personal growth and a chance at new love.

If we censor and censure people who say things we don’t want to hear, we may struggle to understand them.

Divorce is hard on children, but when those children are grown, it can be even harder.

If you can learn and grow from an experience, it isn’t abuse. It is a learning opportunity.

Research shows unhappily-married people to be far less content with life than their single counterparts.

Is having children a sacrifice, or is it just as selfish as everything else we do?

Has your mate ever done something that hurt you? A new study suggests that it probably wasn’t as painful as you remember.

Sometimes, it takes a village to run a household.